Dear “Imperfect Mom,” Will You Believe the Lies or Stand on Truth?

by Brigitte Harrison

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When we stepped into married life, my husband and I knew we were called to full-time, vocational ministry. He was the college pastor at our church and had his eyes set toward seminary. Although I had no doubts about my call to ministry, I was not at all confident in this role.

I began the journey of striving to be the “perfect pastor’s wife.” However, it didn’t take long before my flaws rose to the surface. There were so many wives in ministry that (I thought) had it all figured out. These women could quote scripture for any need, pray beautifully, walk with a peaceful presence, and seemed to have a wealth of knowledge about God’s Word.

Although I only knew these women from a distance, it seemed I had a lot to learn. I didn’t posses these qualities and after a couple years of trying, began to wonder if I was really cut out to be a pastor’s wife. It seemed that with every pastor’s wife I met, there was another skill or characteristic I needed to develop.

As a new mom, this pattern continued. My eyes were drawn to those moms who were prepared for every situation of sticky fingers and explosive diapers. These moms kept their cool when the kids were falling apart in public. I also noticed their kids were given the healthiest of meals. I constantly asked myself, “How do they do this?”

Once again, I began the journey to become the “perfect mom.” Just like my journey to become the “perfect pastor’s wife,” it didn’t take long before my flaws rose to the surface. There were so many women who seemed to have it all figured out.

I’m sure many of you are thinking, “No one has it ALL figured out. We are all works in progress. You only saw these women on occasion, what about the rest of their day?”  Maybe you are even thinking, “Brigitte, give yourself a break!”

These statements are so true. No one woman has it ALL figured out. We are all learning and growing, and God loves us the same. Unfortunately, I was blinded by the lies of the enemy. 

No matter what strengths and weaknesses we see in ourselves, all of us have fallen prey to the devil’s lies. What about those thoughts that make you feel alone in a room full of people or second-guess yourself? Or those doubts that whisper, “are you sure you are the right person for this job?”

In John 8:44 Jesus says this about the devil:

“He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”

There comes a point when we must ask ourselves, “If I choose to believe these lies, what is the outcome?”

In some ways the answer is, nothing. Absolutely nothing.

  • If I believe the lie that I have nothing to offer, I will not serve or reach out a helping hand to others.
  • If I believe the lie that I will surely fail, I will never attempt anything great for God.
  • If I believe the lie that I am not creative enough, the creative ability I have will never be used.

This list could go on and on for each of us. What we need to realize is that the “father of lies” will tell us whatever lies we will believe. He knows where we are weak.

The devil knew my insecurities as a new pastor’s wife and a new mom. Because he could tap into my vulnerable places, he could weaken my effectiveness, and he did!

I spent too many moments being too scared to try something new or looking over my shoulder to see who would notice if I failed. I spent too much time entertaining the lies of the enemy and those thoughts paralyzed me!

God’s Word is TRUTH, so we must fight the devil’s lies with the truth God gives us.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fearfulness, but one of power, love, and sound judgment.” 2 Timothy 1:7

“For you are saved by grace through faith, and this is not from yourselves; it is God’s gift, not of works, so that no one can boast.” Ephesians 2:8-9

“Finally, be strengthened by the Lord and by His vast strength. Put on the full armor of God so that you can stand against the tactics of the Devil.” Ephesians 6:11-12

“The unfailing love of the Lord never ends!” Lamentations 3:22

Let’s be reminded that we have a God in heaven who created each one of us for this day. He gave us skills and talents as gifts because He loves us. Whether our kids live at home or live on their own, we are the ones God wants to use to show them how to love, live, serve, forgive, respect, and share.

We have a decision to make. Will we listen to the lies of the enemy or STAND on the truth of God’s Word?

I pray that we will stand on God’s promises today. May we walk more confidently in our role as “mom” knowing that God made us, has a job for us to do, and loves us just as we are.

For me…I am nothing close to perfect, but I know that God loves me for who I am. He doesn’t expect me to be perfect, but to keep my eyes on Him and do my best. I don’t have it all figured out, because each season of motherhood is new. I am willing to learn and lean on my friends who are a few steps ahead. I’m so thankful God called me and will equip me for the occupation of “MOM.”

How about you? Will you believe the lies or stand on truth?

Brigitte Harrison

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