Valentine’s Day was just a few weeks ago.  Did you receive the perfect card or the perfect gift? Even if you thought you did, by now the candy is gone, the flowers are dying, and that guy has probably done something not so perfect.  We always have wishes for a dream valentine and for it to last longer than just February 14th!

When I was married we usually went out to dinner and got each other a card.  Valentine’s Day was not a big celebration for us, but it was special.  As children came along it was neat to see Valentine’s Day through their eyes.  The smiles and laughter over the cards they gave and received.  A box of chocolates made their day!

After I went through a divorce, Valentine’s Day was a day I just wanted to sleep through.  I would look around and see all the happy couples, giving and receiving valentines.  I felt left out.  It wasn’t that I wasn’t loved.  I received valentines from my children, family, and friends.  There just seemed to be an emptiness and loneliness that didn’t get satisfied.  I wanted to hide out from all of the romance and love going around.

I thought about this from year to year. I’ve watched other women, married and single, none of them seemed satisfied for very long.  I wonder why we are never content.  

For the married ones they had someone to spend Valentine’s Day with and make it special.  I understood why the single women felt lonely. I have felt this way too.  Our children give Valentines to us and make us feel special, but there is still that lonely feeling, of missing out, wanting more.  We all want the romance, the dinner, the gift, the card, the special guy to spend Valentine’s Day with.

As a married woman, your husband cannot satisfy the deepest longing of your heart.  He might get Valentine’s Day right one time and then totally miss it the next year.  Emotions are fickle, changing with the tide.  

We cannot depend on our husbands to satisfy the longing for the Perfect Valentine.

Single women, don’t just look for a man to satisfy that longing.  Sometimes in our loneliness we tend to start looking in all the wrong places for a Valentine. There is not a man alive who can fill that role successfully.

But I have the answer.  I know why we are not content or satisfied.  We are looking for it in the wrong person.                                                                                                                                                           

There is only One who can fill that void in your life and satisfy your longings to be loved and cherished all the time.  His Name is Jesus Christ.  He loves you with an everlasting love,(Jeremiah 31:3).  He knows the number of hairs on your head (Luke 12:7).  You are of value to Him.

“Even before He made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in His eyes.  God decided in advance to adopt us into His own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ.  This is what He wanted to do, and it gave Him great pleasure.  So we praise God for the glorious grace He has poured out on us who belong to His dear Son.” Ephesians 1:4-6

God created each of us with a void in our heart, a longing for eternity, a need for the perfect Valentine.  

He gave us a free will to decide whether we want to accept His gift, His Son.  Jesus wants to fill that hole in your heart.  Only He can fill the void and satisfy our longing for the perfect Valentine.

“For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 (NIV)

“Jesus said, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.’” John 14:6 (ESV)

“This is real love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins…All who declare that Jesus is the Son of God have God living in them, and they live in God.” 1 John 4:10, 15 (NLT)

When we find our identity in Jesus Christ, He will fill us with His Spirit.  

On the good days and the bad days. He is with us. Hebrews 13:5 says, “for He has said, I will never leave you nor forsake you.” According to Zephaniah 3:17, Christ will quiet you with His love and rejoice over you with singing.  

“…My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life.” John 10:10 (NLT)

“Then Christ will make His home in your hearts as you trust in Him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong.” Ephesians 3:17 (NLT)

“…because you are precious to Me.  You are honored, and I love you.” Isaiah 43:4 (NLT)

“See, I have written your name on the palms of my hands.” Isaiah 49:16 (NLT)

“Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! His faithful love endures forever.” Psalms 118:29 (NLT)

There is no higher joy than being loved by Jesus Christ and loving Him.  He delights in your beauty (Psalm 45:11). Romans 8:35-39 tells us that nothing can separate us from His love.  

“For your Maker is your husband – the Lord Almighty is His name!” Isaiah 54:10

Ladies, married or single, the One and Only Perfect Valentine is Jesus Christ.  When we look to Him for contentment and satisfaction, He fills us with His Love, Joy, and Peace, not just one day out of the year, but every single day.


Melody Merritt

Melody has been a single parent for 14 years, raised two daughters who love the Lord, and is now learning to parent adult children and embracing her role as "MiMi." She loves to teach God’s Word and help women see and hear Jesus in their everyday life. Melody has been speaking to women’s groups for over 25 years as a Sunday school teacher, Bible study facilitator, MOPS Mentor, conference speaker, and women’s ministry leader. She is the Women's Ministry Team Leader at her church and serves on the Knowing God Ministries Team. She is also a Board Certified Biblical Counselor and Life Coach through American Association of Christian Counselors. She enjoys spending time with family, reading, watching good movies, going on long walks, and talking about Jesus over a cup of coffee with friends.

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