*This is the second post this week by Melanie
It was one of the most unusual moments I can remember in our entire marriage.
My husband and I were driving home from a trip and spending much time in the car.
I decided to pose a question to him about one of my upcoming blogs.
I asked him:
“Honey, I’m writing an article about ‘5 Things That Every Husband Loves to Hear.’
Do you have any suggestions for my article?”
- He didn’t blink.
- He didn’t stammer or stutter.
- He didn’t pause.
- He didn’t even take much of a breath.
- My very laid-back, calm, easy-going, slow speaking husband from Texas didn’t hesitate.
He immediately gave me a list of 5 things he loves to hear and would love to hear more often.
I had to write as fast as I could write to keep up with him.
Within 10 minutes, I had an incredible list!
And, so, I offer you the wisdom of this great man I’ve lived with for almost 25 years now.
Here are 5 Things That Every Man A LOVES to hear from the Woman in His life:
1) I Respect You!
“As a man, as a person, as a dad, as a husband, as you are – I respect and admire you.”
“Even after all of these years, I still respect you.”
“So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
–Women need love.
–Men need respect.
Here are some practical ways to communicate respect to your man:
~ Ask his opinion and listen to what he has to say.
~ Respond without arguing with him.
~ Don’t put him down to your friends.
~ Don’t belittle or make fun of him in public.
~ Don’t belittle or make fun of him in front of the kids.
~ If you disagree, try to still treat him with consideration.
~ Speak highly of him to friends and family.
2) I Appreciate You as a Man!
“I appreciate you and who you are as a man of integrity. I am so grateful for who you are.
I am thankful that I am your wife/girlfriend.”
Here are some practical ways to communicate appreciation to your man:
~ Come up with 3-4 things you really appreciate about your man.
His Sense of humor,
His Compassionate way of dealing with people,
His Intelligence, or
~ Tell him at least one of these attributes that you appreciate.
3) I Appreciate What You Do!
“I am thankful for all that you do for us – for working hard, for giving your best, and for providing for us as you do.
Men really like to be appreciated. It means a great deal to us.
Here are some practical ways to communicate appreciation for what your man does:
~ Use your words and thank him.
~Make a big deal in front of the kids for something he did.
~ Brag to his friends and your friends over something he did.
~ Give him a big hug and whisper your gratitude to him.
4) I Love You!
“We like to hear it too.
We like to know that you love us!”
Here are some practical ways to communicate love to your man:
~ Give him lots of hugs and kisses.
~ Send him a nice note, card, email or text message.
~ Buy him a little gift that he will really enjoy.
~ Do some kind act of service for him – wash his car, make his favorite meal.
~ Spend time with him doing what he loves to do – go to a ballgame or an action movie with him.
5) I Think You Are the Best, and I Would Choose You if I had it to do All Over Again!
“I’m really glad that I picked you.
You are the best one, and I would pick you again.“
(Our Wedding day is pictured below).
Here are some practical ways to communicate to him that he is still the best one to you:
(This one really makes me think of some old songs. Maybe you can use one of these titles to communicate your love).
~ “We’re still having fun, and you’re still the ONE.”
~“You’re the ONE that I want.”
~ “I can’t stop loving YOU.”
~ “I will always love YOU.”
Many years ago, I was water skiing with two of my best friends. My dad was driving us around the lake on a gorgeous summer day.
At one point we stopped to rest and have a snack. As we paused, my dad started talking to us about boys.
We were all single at the time.
My dad teased us a little, and then he asked a very serious question:
“Isn’t there some guy out there that you girls RESPECT?”
I don’t know who my friends pictured when he posed the question.
But, when my dad asked that question, I immediately thought of Randy.
Randy was a single guy at our church who I thought very highly of.
Not long after that boat trip, all three of us girls were engaged; all of us married men that we really respected within a year of that day at the lake.
And, we are all still married to those same good men—after 25 years.
My man just happens to be named “Randy!”
There’s a sequel to this post.
You can read it by clicking on this title: “5 MORE Things Every Man Wants to Hear.”
For more info on COMMUNICATING with your man, you may want to check out one of these great relationship resources:
~ Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs
~ His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Jr. Harley
~ His Needs, Her Needs for Parents: Keeping Romance Alive by Willard F. Jr. Harley
~ Understanding the Male Temperament by Tim LaHaye
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