Life as a Single Mom

by Melody Merritt 

Melody, Brittany, and Megan November 2013


I always wanted to be a mother. My dream as a little girl was to grow up, get married, and have children. I married at 20 years old, and God blessed us with two daughters. Life was good, and I thought I was living my happily ever after…

After 18 years of marriage, my husband decided he wanted something different. He left home, moved to another country, and filed for divorce.  Suddenly, I found myself living life as a single mom.

This was not in my plan!  I wanted to be a mother, but I never dreamed I would be doing it solo. My daughters were 9 and 12 years old when their father left. I was overwhelmed, to say the least, but, God was not. His Word says in Psalm 55:22, “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you.” God kept His word. He did sustain me.

I had known Jesus since I was 9 years old. All at once, I had to decide if I truly believed Him. Was God bigger and stronger than my circumstances?  Yes – He was and is!

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding, but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your steps.” Proverbs 3:5-6

I did not know what the future held, but I knew who held my future in His hands.

Some of the most difficult things I have faced as a single mom are loneliness, rejection, feeling unworthy, being tired all the time, wanting to give up, and feeling like I don’t belong. But, for each of these “big” things, God is bigger, He is stronger, and I have found, He is enough!

I can tell each of you, whether you are single or not, the most important thing for moms is to have a personal, vital, growing relationship with Jesus Christ.  Depending on the season of life you are in, you may not have an hour to spend in quiet time, but, you need to find some time each day to spend with Jesus. This is your lifeline!

Prayer is also vital.  Talk to God every day.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

Talk to God about everything.  Prayer makes a difference!

Cultivate a heart of gratitude and thanksgiving.

Start a Praise Journal. Every day, write down three things you are thankful for and can praise God for. This practice kept me from complaining and whining about my circumstances. It brought my vision back in focus. Some days it was difficult for me to find things to be thankful for, but as I looked, I saw God at work, taking care of my needs and giving peace and joy in the midst of difficult times.

He is my sustainer, my provider, my husband, and a father for my children.

“For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name.” Isaiah 54:5

Put together a support system – family, friends, neighbors, and other parents – from which you can seek help. Don’t let fear or pride stand in the way of asking. God created us for fellowship and community. You may be a single mom, but you are not alone, and you do not have to do it all!

I had to learn to look to Jesus, not the world or my circumstances, for my worth. 

Ephesians 1:3-14, tells us as children of God we are: “blessed, chosen, forgiven, adopted, loved, sealed, and sanctified.”

Ephesians 2:10 tells us, “We are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

I was called to be mom to my daughters.

With God’s help, I will be the best mom I can be.

Melody Merritt*Single mothers, know we are praying for you! 

**If Melody’s post spoke to you today, we’d love to hear from you in the comment section below, on our Facebook page, or on Twitter @missionalmother! 

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