Truth Above All Else…But Whose Truth?

by Melody Merritt 

Crossing out Lies and writing Truth on a blackboard.

Fourteen years ago my husband left our home and moved to Canada to live with another woman. I was devastated and angry. I wanted to lash out and hurt that man. I wanted to listen to the world’s lies, get even, and take what he had. But God’s Word said to let go of the anger, the resentment, the bitterness, and all the negative emotions that were piling up. I tried, but it was not easy. I found I couldn’t do it in my strength. I turned to the Lord Jesus, and as I began to pray and dig deeper into His Word, He met me. His Truth helped me to trust Him and give it all to Jesus.

I realized that my daughters were watching me. My decisions each day had an impact on their tomorrows.

“A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears her house down with her own hands,” Proverbs 14:1. 

Our children watch our examples and follow how we lead. I wanted to build my house on God’s Truth and impart that Truth into my children’s hearts.

Could I trust God? Was God’s Word the Truth? Yes, I could trust God! I believe Jesus Christ is my Rock and His Word is Truth that I can live my life on.

“In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make straight your paths,” Proverbs 3:6. 

Well, I determined that I was going to trust God and live my life according to His Word.  There were days that I didn’t feel like it. I had to ask God to work forgiveness deep into my heart. As His Word penetrated my heart and saturated my mind, He changed my life.

His Words became my lifeline.

Then came the day that my oldest daughter asked the question, “Who is right? Who do I believe, you or Dad? Dad taught us that it was sinful to live with someone when you were not married. Now he is doing this. Who is wrong and who is right? Who do I listen to—Mom who says it is still wrong, or Dad who says it is okay?”

I wanted to say something ugly and sarcastic about her dad and the situation, and tell her not to listen to him ever again. But I knew this would pit me against him and my daughters would have to choose sides. It also would overshadow the real issue, “Whose “truth” is Truth?”

As I prayed about how to answer this question and work through it, God showed me that His Word is unchanging. He is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow. His Word is Truth we can stand on. I wanted to be a mom who taught my children God’s Truth and lived it out daily in my life. My thinking can change from time to time, but God’s doesn’t. I don’t know everything, only God does. But I can stand on God’s Word, my firm foundation.

So my answer to my daughter’s question was and still is, “Let’s go to God’s Word.” God’s Word never changes. There are answers in God’s Word for every situation that arises in our lives, the big issues and the small ones.

“Every word of God proves true; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him,” Proverbs 30:5.

I hope each of you, as a mom or grandmother or a woman who has influence in someone else’s life will decide for yourself if God’s Word is truth and if it is trustworthy. Am I going to be a woman who lives my life according to God’s Truth or according to the world’s ever changing truth? Decide today! Then teach this to the children in your life.  Teach them to go to God’s Word for Truth.

“These are not just idle words for you, they are your life,” Deuteronomy 32:47.

Melody Merritt

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  1. Glenda Davis says:

    I could have written this post. My daughter forwarded it to me because she saw the similarities between our story and yours. My very conservative Christian husband formed an on-line relationship with a Canadian woman (also married) and left me for her almost 17 years ago. I am happily remarried. I retired from my job with the state and went back to graduate school. I am now a licensed Christian counselor in Northwest Arkansas. God truly knows how to make good come from the totally awful stuff in life. Bless your work.

  2. Arelys Delgado says:

    Beautiful and you are so right, God’s truth is the only one we must seek and follow. Melody thank you for such wonderful message and for being so courageous and sharing your story. May our Lord bless you and continue to use you for His glory and honor.

  3. Debbie Thompson says:

    Melody has continually pointed all of us to the Word for Truth as she continually lives it. Her daughters are beautiful testimonies of a Godly mother who points them to Jesus while loving and serving others. They are a huge blessing in our church and community.

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