Today is my 46th birthday…and I have a 3-year-old.
I’ll be the first to say that this journey the Lord has allowed me to be a part of sure looks different than I envisioned it as a 22-year-old college graduate. Completely Different!
Speaking of different, I’ve always felt if you were to look up the word “different” in the dictionary, my picture might be the definition beside it.
The definition of different according to Dictionary.com is “not the same as another or each other; separate or distinct.” (In reality, isn’t that what God has called us to be as Christians—different than the world?)
I was always seemingly “different” as a child. The only redhead with freckles in my family of six (might I add LOTS of freckles), and let’s throw in the fact that I have two different colored eyes—I was just different.
All three of my siblings got married in their early twenties, and each of them have three adorable and beautiful biological children. I, on the other hand, didn’t get married until I was almost 38, and after several years of struggling with infertility, my husband and I were blessed to go down a completely different road called embryo adoption. (See former post for more information on Embryo Adoption.)
I have learned over the course of my 46 years that Different isn’t wrong, different is just different!
As an older mom of an almost 4-year-old, I have found how important it is to embrace the different road that God has allowed me to travel down.
I absolutely love hanging out with these younger moms (many of which I knew when they were teenagers and I was privileged to be their girl’s ministry director) and getting to embrace a new season of life that my friend refers to as “the sandbox ministry.”
I will admit this is such a unique season of life, and one that maybe I would not have chosen, but it is one I certainly want to embrace and enjoy and allow the Lord to use for His Glory!
I often wonder how Sarah and Elizabeth (two of my mom role models from scripture) embraced their seasons of life as older moms. I love looking into God’s Word and being reminded of the “different” paths God allowed so many of his children to go down in order that they would know, believe, and trust HIM.
I truly long to learn from scripture and help others learn also that the different paths God allows us to travel down aren’t really about us at all; it is ultimately to help us know HIM more in order for HIM to receive the Glory from our lives. We must embrace the fact that God has allowed each of us to travel different paths in our lives, and it isn’t a competition or a mold for others to follow, it’s simply a different path HE has allowed in order that we may honor and glorify HIM and make HIM known!
I love the passage below and feel often that maybe God allowed me to go the longer and different route in life, rather than the shortest, because He knew I was going to have to break free of my own fears and insecurities and doubts, in order that HE might receive the Glory. I am such a work in progress!
“When the king of Egypt let the people go, God did not take them by the road that goes up the coast of Philistia, although that was the shortest way. God thought, ‘I do not want them to change their minds and return to Egypt when they see that they are going to have to fight.’ Instead, He led them in a roundabout way through the desert toward the Red Sea.” Exodus 13:17-18
I often giggle with my friends that God has certainly taken me in a “roundabout way” in my life many times, and things rarely happened in my timing. But looking back now, I’m ok with that because these paths have made me seek and trust Him more.
God’s ways may take us down a path that looks strangely different than the path He allows someone else to travel, and our families in turn may look a bit different also, but I continue to learn in my own life that His ways are not my ways, they are much higher (Isaiah 55:9).
My prayer for myself and every other mom on a journey that might seem different than those around you, is that we will embrace the fact that different isn’t wrong, different is just different. We must hold tightly to the truth that we serve a God who desires to use our journey in order that HE will receive the Glory and Honor and Praise for His mighty works and that He is leading us and teaching us every step of the way. (Psalm 25:4&5)
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