By Stephanie Blackiston
As I enter my 15th year of motherhood, you would think I would be cruising along. But as time goes on, I am realizing my inadequacies more than ever. God has given us eight amazing children and the responsibility to finish this great work is overwhelming.
I frantically try to find “things” to grab hold of for stability. However, what stabilizes me is not a thing, He is a Person!
“And He will be the stability of your times,
A wealth of salvation, wisdom and knowledge” Isaiah 33:6
What a verse for us moms to hang on to for dear life! I am so thankful that a “wealth” of salvation, stability, wisdom, and knowledge can be found in Jesus! Colossians 2:3 says all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge are found in Christ. I think our natural reflex is to grab onto a book, a friend, a counselor, a mentor, a school, a co-op, etc. There is nothing wrong with these things, but we need to go to Jesus first.
I am currently learning about motherhood from John 17.
“For them I sanctify myself, that they too may be truly sanctified” (v19).
Motherhood can be such a frenzy that it is hard to find any time (forget “quiet” time!). If your kids walk in and see you in prayer or diligently seeking God in His Word, it will make a lasting impression on their hearts. Ruth Belle Graham’s children still speak of walking in and seeing her doing these very things! I vividly remember seeing my mom read her Bible in the mornings. It is good for them to see us putting Jesus first.
When we are spending time with the Lord, allowing His Word to sanctify us, the people around us benefit greatly.
I want my children to be truly sanctified- through and through! (1 Thessalonians 5:23)
I want them to reach their full potential in Christ. The best thing I can be doing “for them” is to sanctify myself.
Jesus says “glorify me in your presence with the glory I had with you before the world began”. He wanted to maintain His simple relationship with His Father. His example shows us the importance of being alone with God. We have to remember our first love and spend time in His presence!
“He looked toward heaven and prayed”- Jesus knew where His help came from. Looking toward heaven is such a good posture for prayer as a mom. That is where our help comes from too: The Maker of Heaven.
“This is eternal life: that they may know you”
The purpose is not how successful our little disciples are, or popular, or athletic. The goal is that they have eternal life… and eternal life is knowing Jesus.
“I pray for them” (v9)
“My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one.” (v15)
Prayer is crucial, moms. Stand in the gap for your children. My grandfather prayed for me every day of my life until he entered glory. I have 40 years of effective prayers still working on my behalf.
“Protect them by the power of your name” (v11)
“I protected them and kept them safe by the name you gave me” (v12)
Protect your children by covering their lives with the name of Jesus. He is over-protective and He will keep them safe.
“All I have is yours, and all you have is mine” (v10)
“For I gave them the Words you gave me” (v8)
We have to be partnering with the Lord and allowing Him to use us as a vessel to flow through us into our children’s lives. The lasting fruit we desire to see as mothers is going to happen when our hearts are connected to God.
Jesus not only prays for his disciples, but also for those who will believe in Him through their ministry (v.20). Jesus knew the impact His disciples were going to make on the world. We need to remember the big picture too. This is bigger than matching outfits and winning soccer games. We are raising up the next generation of leaders in the Church who will share the gospel with the world.
May He be the stability of our times! May He continue to give us a wealth of wisdom and knowledge in order to raise up godly children.
Stephanie is the mother of 8 precious children and is so far out of her comfort zone, it's not even funny. 🙂 God is constantly teaching her to depend on Him to complete the impossible work of motherhood. Stephanie is married to a prince-in-real-life, Tim.
However, along with great blessing, she has walked through deep pain, loss, and grief. She loves comforting others with the comfort God has given her.
Stephanie has a passion to see women and children of all ages engaged with the Word of God. The ministry, “Good Soil Girls” is an overflow of her love and devotion to the Word of God and that passion.
1 Corinthians 2:9 is her signature verse.